Father or faith? Abu Ubaydah’s impossible choice that defined Islamic loyalty

Abu Ubaydah ibn al-Jarrah was one of the first persons to accept Islam. He became a Muslim one day after Abu Bakr. In fact, it was through Abu Bakr that he became a Muslim. Abu Bakr took him, Abdur Rahman ibn Aut, Uthman ibn Mazun and al-Arqam ibn Abu al Arqam to the Prophet, upon whom be peace, and together they declared their acceptance of the Truth. They were thus the first pillars on which the great edifice of Islam was built.

Abu Ubaydah lived through the harsh experience, which the Muslims went through in Makkah, from beginning to end. With the early Muslims, he endured the insults and the violence, the pain and the sorrow of that experience. One of the most harrowing experiences he had to go through however, was at the battle of Badr.

Abu Ubaydah was in the vanguard of the Muslim forces, fighting with might and main and as someone who was not at all afraid of death. The Quraysh cavalry were extremely wary of him and avoided coming face to face with him. One man in particular, however, kept on pursuing Abu Ubaydah wherever he turned and Abu Ubaydah tried his best to keep out of his way and avoid an encounter with him.

The man plunged into the attack. Abu Ubaydah tried desperately to avoid him. Eventually the man succeeded in blocking Abu Ubaydah’s path and stood as a barrier between him and the Quraysh. They were now face to face with each other. Abu Ubaydah could not contain himself any longer. He struck one blow to the man’s head. The man fell to the ground and died instantly.

The man in Fact was Abdullah ibn al-Jarrah, the father of Abu Ubaydah!

It is concerning this event that Allah revealed the following verses of the Quran:

“You will not find a people believing in God and the Last Day making friends with those who oppose God and His messenger even if these were their fathers, their sons, their brothers or their clan. God has placed faith in their hearts and strengthened them with a spirit from Him….” (Surah al-Mujadila 58:22)

It is related by Muhammad ibn Jafar, a Companion of the Prophet, that a Christian delegation came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Abu-l Qasim, send one of your companions with us, one in whom you are well pleased, to judge between us on some questions of property about which we disagree among ourselves. We have a high regard for you Muslim people.”

“Come back to me this evening,” replied the Prophet, “and I will send with you one who is strong and trustworthy.”

Umar ibn al-Khattab heard the Prophet saying this and later said: “I went to the Zuhr (midday) Prayer early hoping to be the one who would fit the description of the Prophet. When the Prophet had finished the Prayer, he began looking to his right and his left and I raised myself so that he could see me. But he continued looking among us until he spotted Abu Ubaydah ibn al-Jarrah. He called him and said, ‘Go with them and judge among them with truth about that which they are in disagreement.” And so, Abu Ubaydah got the appointment.”

Abu Ubaydah was not only trustworthy. He displayed a great deal of strength in the discharge of his trust.

Abu Ubaydah continued to be fully involved in all the momentous events during the Prophet’s lifetime. After the beloved Prophet had passed away, the companions gathered to choose a successor at the Saqifah or meeting place of Banu Saadah. The day is known in history as the Day of Saqifah. On this day, Umar ibn al-Khattab said to Abu Ubaydah, “Stretch forth your hand and I will swear allegiance to you for I heard the Prophet, peace be upon him say, ‘Every ummah has an amin (custodian) and you are the amin of this ummah.’ ”

“I would not,” declared Abu Ubaydah, “put myself forward in the presence of a man whom the Prophet, upon whom be peace, commanded to lead us in Prayer and who led us right until the Prophet’s death.” He then gave bayah (the oath of allegiance) to Abu Bakr as-Siddiq.

He continued to be a close adviser to Abu Bakr and his strong supporter in the cause of truth and goodness. Then came the caliphate of Umar and Abu Ubaydah also gave him his support and obedience.