Post – Ramadhan reflections on halal relationships
Assalam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
As the echoes of Takbir fade and the festive spirit of Eid settles, many of us find ourselves in deep reflection. Ramadhan—the month of mercy, self-restraint, and spiritual elevation—has left its mark on our hearts. It was a time when we tried to be our best selves, devoted more time to prayer, gave more in charity, and distanced ourselves from distractions. But now, as we return to our daily routines, some are faced with a different kind of reality—relationships that are not halal.
Ramadhan often brings clarity. The late-night prayers, heartfelt duas, and conscious efforts to strengthen our relationship with Allah expose areas in our lives that need change. For those entangled in relationships that Islam does not permit—be it secret affairs, emotional attachments outside of marriage, or partnerships that lack Islamic commitment—the end of Ramadhan can be bittersweet.
Many find themselves asking: Was my Ramadhan sincere if I return to a relationship I know I shouldn’t be in? This question lingers, not out of judgment but out of an internal struggle between the love we feel and the faith we hold dear.
Love vs. faith: The internal conflict
Love is one of the most powerful emotions, and in its purest form, it is a blessing from Allah. But love outside of the boundaries He has set can also be a test. Allah reminds us in the Qur’an:
“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is an immorality and an evil way.” (Surah Al-Isra 17:32)
Many people in non-halal relationships feel torn—they care deeply for their partners but also yearn to be closer to their Creator.
During Ramadhan, it was easier to resist temptations. The focus was on fasting, ibadah, and purification of the soul. But now, with fewer restrictions, old habits and relationships begin to resurface. The question then becomes: How do I transition from a non-halal relationship to one that aligns with my faith?
Steps towards a halal love life
“And your Lord says, ‘Call upon Me; I will respond to you.’” (Surah Ghafir 40:60)
“When a man and a woman are alone together, Shaytan is the third.”(Tirmidhi, 2165)
“A man follows the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he takes as a friend.” (Abu Dawood, 4833)
Healing and moving forward
Letting go of a relationship, even for the right reasons, is never easy. But remember, when you sacrifice something for Allah, He replaces it with something better. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) reassured us:
“You will never leave something for the sake of Allah, but Allah will give you something better in return.” (Ahmad, 22565)
Post-Ramadhan is a time to continue growing, to maintain the spiritual momentum, and to trust that the right love—one that is blessed and fulfilling—will find its way to you at the right time.
If you are struggling, remind yourself that no one is perfect. We all have battles, and the journey to self-betterment is ongoing. Take one step at a time, seek Allah’s mercy, and know that true love is not just about what feels good, but about what is right in the eyes of your Creator.
May Allah guide us all to relationships that bring us peace in this life and success in the next. Ameen.
