The key to a lasting love: investing in your relationship

By Hatmah Naluggwa SsekaayaOn December 07, 2024, in sha Allah my husband and I will be celebrating 16 years in marriage. I am looking forward to more years together with Mwami Ssekaaya. The secret is – we have both invested in this our relationship.
Yes, investing in your relationship is one of the best ways to build a deep, lasting bond that grows stronger everyday and eventually over time.
In a world where fast-paced lives and digital distractions often take priority, many couples are seeking ways to strengthen their relationships and keep love alive. Relationship experts agree with me that investing time, energy, and thoughtfulness into your partnership is essential for maintaining a healthy, long-lasting bond.
These are some expert-backed strategies for couples looking to build a stronger connection through intentional relationship investments.
Quality time together
One of the most powerful ways to invest in your relationship is to prioritize quality time. Busy schedules make this difficult, but setting aside time for regular, meaningful moments together can make a big difference.
“People often think that they need a whole day or weekend to make an impact on their relationship, but even small, consistent moments matter,” says Dr. Angela Hart, a family therapist. “Regular date nights, shared hobbies, or even a daily coffee together can be powerful ways to stay connected.”
The Quran emphasizes love and tranquillity within marriage:
“And among His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.” (Quran 30:21)
Spending time together, building a shared life, and enjoying each other’s company are ways to foster the affection and mercy mentioned in this verse.
Communication is key
Communication remains a cornerstone of a
strong relationship, and experts recommend it be approached with honesty, empathy, and openness. Daily check-ins allow couples to share their highs and lows, express gratitude, and discuss challenges.
It’s important to foster open communication and create a space where both partners feel safe to share their thoughts and emotions.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) modelled this in his interactions with his own wives, often engaging them in conversation, listening to them, and sharing moments of laughter and sorrow.
In the Quran, Allah instructs believers to speak kindly to one another:
“And tell My servants to say that which is best. Indeed, Satan induces dissension among them. Indeed, Satan is ever, to mankind, a clear enemy.” (Quran 17:53)

Speaking with kindness and empathy fosters peace and understanding in a relationship, creating an environment of safety and openness.
Facing challenges as a team
Relationships inevitably encounter challenges, and facing these together can help strengthen the partnership. “Being a supportive partner means standing by each other, whether the problem is big or small,” explains a clinical psychologist specializing in relationships. “When you face challenges together, you develop resilience as a team.”
The concept of patience and facing hardships together is central in Islam. Couples are encouraged to support each other through life’s ups and downs, relying on Allah and each other for strength.
“And cooperate in righteousness and piety, but do not cooperate in sin and aggression.” (Quran 5:2)
The art of forgiveness
Forgiveness is crucial in any relationship, as unresolved conflicts and resentments can create distance. Holding onto past grievances can create a toxic environment. Address issues as they arise, then let them go. Remember, everyone makes mistakes.
“Let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like
that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Quran 24:22)
This verse reminds us that just as we seek Allah’s forgiveness, we should also be forgiving with others, especially our spouses.
Couples are encouraged to approach misunderstandings with empathy, assuming their partner has good intentions and moving forward in a spirit of forgiveness.
Keep romance and intimacy alive
The Quran promotes kindness and compassion within marriage, as well as fulfilling each other’s needs with respect and love. Physical and emotional intimacy is not only encouraged but seen to strengthen the bond between husband and wife.
“They are clothing for you, and you are clothing for them.” (Quran 2:187)
This verse is a beautiful metaphor for the closeness and vulnerability in marriage, emphasizing that each partner should provide warmth, protection, and support to the other.
Embracing growth
Relationships are dynamic, and as people grow, so must the partnership. Islam encourages continuous learning and personal growth, which can enrich a marriage. In seeking knowledge and understanding about each other, couples foster a relationship of mutual respect.
“And say, ‘My Lord, increase me in knowledge.’” (Quran 20:114)
Staying curious about each other’s dreams and aspirations aligns with the Islamic pursuit of knowledge and personal growth. This way, couples can help each other grow both spiritually and emotionally.
Investing in a relationship isn’t a one-time effort but rather an ongoing journey. With these practices, couples can create a foundation that will help them navigate life’s inevitable challenges while maintaining a fulfilling, lasting bond.