When identity crises become silent pandemics in our children’s lives

Janat Yahaya Naggolola – Parenting Coach

Assalam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

A Silent Cry in the Midst of Noise

We live in a world bursting with technology, opportunities, and connectivity. Our children can access information, cultures, and voices from across the globe at the click of a button. Yet, in the middle of this noise, many of them are silently crying out for clarity. They are surrounded by influences but lack direction. They are connected virtually but feel deeply disconnected within themselves.

Behind their laughter at school, their polished social media profiles, and their achievements at home, lies a hidden struggle, a silent pandemic of identity crises that is quietly shaping, and in some cases, breaking our children.

A Story That Mirrors Many Homes

A mother was worried about her teenage son. To her, he had always been the light of the home: joyful, confident, and deeply grounded. He would lead family prayers, help his younger siblings, and share his dreams freely. But something changed.

Gradually, he withdrew. He became quieter, avoided prayer, and seemed disinterested in family conversations. He spent hours glued to his phone, scrolling endlessly, looking for approval from strangers online. His once-bright spark dimmed, replaced by confusion and self-doubt.

This story is not rare. It mirrors what many families are facing today. Children feel torn between the values of their homes and the demands of society. Between their faith and the trends of social media. Between who they were raised to be and who the world insists they must become. The haunting question of “Who am I?” lingers in their hearts, often unanswered.

Understanding the Depth of the Crisis

An identity crisis is not a small bump in the road that children simply outgrow. It is a profound struggle that touches the very core of who they are. It influences how they see themselves, how they connect with others, and how they anchor their place in the world.

When unresolved, this crisis can spiral into low self-esteem, peer-driven rebellion, destructive behaviours, or even mental health struggles. Spiritually, it risks creating distance between children and their Creator, because when one’s sense of identity is shaken, faith often becomes the first casualty.

Yet, the Qur’an reminds us of the importance of self-awareness and purpose:

“And be not like those who forgot Allah, so He made them forget themselves. Those are the defiantly disobedient.” (Surah Al-Hashr 59:19).

When children lose connection with Allah, they lose connection with themselves.

But here is the good news: an identity crisis does not have to end in despair. If guided with wisdom, faith, and compassion, it can be transformed into a journey of resilience and self-discovery.

So, let me ask you:

Are we truly present in this critical chapter of our children’s lives? Do we make time to guide them beyond academics, into the deeper matters of self-awareness, character, and faith? Or are we allowing social media, peers, and the pressures of the world to define their identity for them?

Our children do not just need food, clothing, and education. They need guidance. They need safe spaces to ask questions. They need mentors to help them see that their worth is not in likes, trends, or fleeting attention, but in their God-given purpose.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) emphasized this responsibility when he said, “Every one of you is a shepherd and every one of you will be asked about his flock.” (Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim). Parenting is more than providing; it is shepherding the souls of our children.

Why My Services Matter

This is where my work comes in. As a certified Muslim parenting coach and parenting expert, I dedicate my life to walking with parents and families through these very challenges.

My approach is rooted in a unique balance of faith, psychology, and practical parenting strategies that empower families to:

• Nurture confidence and self-worth in their children
• Ground their identity in faith, character, and values
• Equip them with resilience to withstand peer pressure and digital confusion
• Build a home environment where children feel understood, loved, and guided

This is not about theory. It is about transformation.

Together, we can rewrite the story.

We invite you to begin this journey with us.

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Let us work together to nurture resilient, value-driven, and faith-centered children who will stand tall in a world that constantly tries to pull them down.